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Post by ania on Jun 15, 2007 2:46:19 GMT -5
This is very random and I'm only wondering, but if a friend and their significent other (if a relationship lasting less than a month can be referred to as significent) agree to seperate, is your friend's ex off limits? I'm curious to see what you'll have to say.
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Post by Lomadia on Jun 16, 2007 0:47:21 GMT -5
I would say, give them both some time - at least as long as the relationship lasted - to see how they handle the separation. There may still be the possibility that they decide to get back together. You could also talk to your friend about how he/she feels about his/her ex. If he/she still harbors feelings for the person, then I'd say the ex is off-limits. If your friend is no longer interested in the ex, you should ask if he/she would be all right with you pursuing the ex. But you should also find out why they broke up, since there may be something about the ex that could cause problems in a relationship with you, as well. Just my thoughts - hope that helps!
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Post by [Aeria-Gloris] on Jun 21, 2007 3:39:26 GMT -5
I'm probably one of the last people you want to take advice from on this subject, but my friends and I have an understanding of "the rules" which occasionally becomes -spoken when we've drunk enough.
anyway, it breaks down like this:
parents siblings partners ex's
... are all out of bounds.
but there is also the bagzie (dibs?) law.
this is when you forbid your friends from attempting competition on a certain target until the caller has tried and failed, or is seen to be making no progress. it's advisable that if this goes on for too long, it's best that everyone simply walk away. in my book, if they're really your friend, they'll respect your feelings and give up on the chase as nobody wants a failure rubbed in their face.
BEWARE
following/breaking "the rules" can lead to disaster.
when a close friend of mine pulled my ex, I myself disregarded the rules and finally (and happily) gave into the advances of his little sister. if he ever found out he would probably try to kill me.
the same thing happened between a different ex and a different friend, at which point i campaigned and succeded in breaking them up by leading the ex astray then ditching her.
karma.
p.s. i know this all sounds quite cruel and sinister... so!? it's the RULES!
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